Wednesday, February 13, 2013

I Hate Valentine's Day

And don't even try to change my mind. It won't work, many have tried, but I do not care for this so-called holiday much more than any other. I used to like it. When I was in elementary school and we handed out valentines to everyone, and you didn't read into the message behind Koby's "Bananas for You" valentine. There was fruit punch, candy, homemade mailboxes for your valentines, cupcakes, cookies, etc. Those were the days. That was what Valentine's Day should've been about. Partying with friends because you cared about them.

In junior high, they stopped making you give cards to everyone, and there weren't even parties. That was when people started pairing off and celebraing as pairs. If you didn't have a boyfriend or girlfriend, this was the time when you started getting mocked for it.

Believe me. This was NOT when I started hating Valentine's Day.

In high school, student government sold lollipops and roses for you to send to your secret crush. While I never got one, this still didn't put the damper on Valentine's day. Government also sold results to an ultimate match survey (for a buck, I always bought it), only to disappoint the hundreds of students when they found out their ultimate crush was at the top of the NOT a match side. Still didn't taint the holiday for me.

I went to a women's college, so my odds of finding a boyfriend were pretty slim, unless I went to Mizzou (I did a few times, but no Prince Charming). On Valentine's Day, my single friends and I would watch a movie and pig out. It was fun, and we all appreciated the love and friendship we offered.

I don't hate Valentine's Day because I'm bitter at not having a man in my life. No one ever believes me, but that's true.

During my last year of college, so many people were lamenting their single status, and those that were in relationships were threatening break ups if their significant others didn't propose or do something spectacular.  The same thing happened the next year, and it got me so upset I wrote the following Valentine's Manifesto:

I'm a firm believer that Valentine's day is a whole lotta hype. I don't even know what I'd do if I did have a boyfriend on Valentine's day. I hope I wouldn't expect much. It's just another day. I mean, I sent out Valentine's to my friends and parents, and if I were in a relationship, I'd get him a card, but you shouldn't dictate that this one day out of 365 be the ultimate day to be romantic. It's such a cliche. 

I've heard from numerous people in my life and online and in the news, that if so-and-so's boyfriend doesn't plan something HUGE on this day, she's gonna break up with him. What about the other 364 days in a year? Has he done nice, wonderful things for you in the past? Why should actions on this one day be the be-all-end-all of relationships? It just doesn't make sense to me. In fact, it's kind of a crock. If you love someone, you shouldn't put pressure on them to do nice things. If they love you, they'll do nice things anyway. But everyone is human, and you can't expect that the actions someone conveys on this one day should outweigh all the other good actions they've done in the past? I mean, seriously! What is that all about? 

I believe that Valentine's day means love in the most general terms. When you say "Love" people will most likely jump to romantic love. But what about unconditional love? What about friendship love? There are several terms for love. I love my parents. I love my sister. I love my friends. I love my family. I love my pets. That's a lot of love right there. But because I don't love a guy in a romantic way, I'm obviously wasting my life come Valentine's day. 

World infatuated with romance and love on this one day alone, Screw you.

Yeah, I might've been a little bitter at the time, but what matters is the end of it. I show love to my family and my friends, my cats, dog. Why does romantic love have to be the be all/end all? What about the other 364 days of the year? 
Melodramatics are the reason I hate Valentine's Day. I do apreciate how much Chocolate there is, however. 

Happy Singles Awareness Day! Because people make sure Singles are AWARE of it!



  1. Fun post. I've never been a big fan of VDay--even in elementary. I knew those valentines were sincere. It was rote and I hated that.

    Sincerity is best and I'd rather get a handful of daisies with my favorte candy bar on some random day, than over priced roses because someone else says they're the best. That's what I don't like (as well as the ridiculous females who demand gifts). It doesn't require knowing your romantic loved one, at all. Insert roses here. Barf.

    But I definitely like your point that it's more than romantic love. However, I'd rather show it on an unexpected day than a designated one!


    1. oooops - those valentines weren't sincere.

    2. I think it's fun, but people take it WAY too seriously.